Get Happy to Lose Weight

Eating while watching a movie is a bad idea. You won’t be paying attention and could easily scarf an entire bucket of buttery popcorn, creating a new layer of fat around your waist before the final credits roll.

If it’s a sad movie, you’ll eat even more—30% more. Holey muffin tops!

The same principle certainly applies to daily life: If you’re sad, there’s a good chance you’re going to overeat. If you’re happy, you won’t look to fo,od for comfort or entertainment.

During the many years that my eating was out of control, I was not a happy person. I stressed about every little thing, I struggled with perfectionism, and I put up with a job I didn’t like. Plus, I had not yet discovered the joys of sex and orgasm. I was having sex about once every two weeks, but didn’t let myself enjoy it.

I ate to alleviate my sadness, but later, I felt worse about myself for binging yet again, which made me even sadder, which made me overeat again…it was a vicious cycle.

Things started to look up when I sought happiness outside of food. I gave my imperfect self a break and stopped taking myself so seriously. I changed jobs and pursued what I wanted in life—NOT what I thought OTHERS wanted me to pursue. Instead of seeking approval all the time, I looked outside myself and began to appreciate the simple things in life, such as good friends, random acts of kindness, and the smile on the deli guy’s face as he made me a turkey sandwich.

Instead of torturing myself at the gym, I found a workout I enjoyed (many of these moves are included in my ForTra workout) and also happened to be the most efficient workout ever. My body finally started to look toned, which meant more body confidence for me! I found a new sex partner (or partners…I’m not telling) and started having orgasms on a daily basis.

With these changes, I dropped 35 pounds pretty easily, after at least 12 years of completely struggling with my weight.

After all the diets I tried, the key was simply to make myself happy!

Get Stiff w/ Exercise

I was about to have the hottest sex in my life--or so I thought.

Bill was a clean-cut, educated, 6'5" businessman. I had seen him four times at the Thursday night parties at the oh-so-fancy Tavern on the Green in Central Park in New York City. I liked Bill from the first time we talked, but I was a good girl and made him wait. The fourth time we met, I accepted his invitation to take a nighttime walk through Central Park. New, hot guy + dark, mysterious public park = I was horny.

When he kissed me, I didn't resist. I pulled him closer, hands roaming. Before I knew it, our pants were down, and I was bent over a park bench. lol

Bill was only 28 years old, so I was shocked when he had erection problems. I'm standing there, my bare ass out waiting to be satisfied, but he's too limp to get it in. Maybe he was nervous, I thought. Maybe it was the condom making him flaccid. But when we tried again, later at his apartment: same deal. Soft, droopy dick.

Erectile dysfunction could be caused by many variables, but one thing that makes ED a whole lot LESS likely is exercise! These studies prove it:

--Men who exercise for 20-30 minutes a day ('nothing!) were about half as likely to have erection problems as sedentary men. Also, as a man's waistline increased, so did his odds of experiencing sexual dysfunction. This is all according to The Harvard School of Public Health.

--A study by the University of California, San Diego showed that when sedentary, middle-aged men started working out 3-4 times a week for 60 minutes at a time, they suddenly had more frequent sex, better orgasms, and better sexual function overall.

As for Bill, I stopped talking to him shortly thereafter. (He said something pretty disrespectful, so now I ignore him.) But I remember him telling me he hadn't worked out in a couple months, which probably meant he hadn't worked out in a year. Hmmm...

Snooze, You Lose

When I start working with new client, I ask them a long list of expected questions: What do you eat? What’s your current exercise routine? Do you have any injuries?

They’re always surprised, though, when I ask them how much they sleep. Given that 99% of my clients are ambitious New Yorkers, they usually say 6 hours or less. Sleep deprivation is a HUGE (pun intended) reason why some people are overweight.

Numerous studies have shown that, usually, the less a person sleeps, the heavier they are.

Why?

1) When you’re tired, you eat more. Fatigue creates higher levels of ghrelin, an appetite-stimulating hormone, and lower levels of leptin, the hormone that tells you to stop eating when you’re full.

That’s a double-hormone whammy making it nearly impossible to keep your eating under control.

2) Sleep deprivation makes you crave sugar, since it’s quick energy. When your body is tired, it isn’t concerned about the inevitable crash sugar will cause later. It just wants energy NOW, and urges your hands to reach for the nearest chocolate bar.

3) Deep sleep is also the time when your brain secretes a hormone that encourages your body to burn fat. If you don’t sleep long enough to hit that final stage of REM, you miss out on some effective—and effortless!-- fat burning.

4) With less sleep, you have less energy. (Duh.) Therefore, you’ll be slumping in your office chair and spending your off-work hours on the couch. Sleep more, and you’ll move around more during the day. Plus, you will work harder at the gym, therefore, burning more calories.

Girl-on-Girl Playtime

I LOOOOVE that my ForTra fitness routine requires orgasms. Some people see sex as unnecessary and think they’re exercising will power by skipping sex. That’s a sad, sad thing. The benefits are proven! Sex is essential to health and will even keep you from overeating.

Anyway…I’ve said that a million times before. How about I tell you about my latest sexcapade? :)

I've been seeing just one guy for a while, but he doesn't mind if I play with other women. I'm on a couple different websites where it's pretty easy to find bisexual women, so I arranged to meet one last night.

Laura is married but her husband lets her play with women on her own. Lucky for me! Laura is a knockout. Tall, blonde, fit. Yummy. She also likes to take control at times.

Her husband rented us a hotel room at the swanky W hotel in Midtown Manhattan. His plan was to let us do our thing, then, after I left, he would come in, his wife would tell him all about our fun, then they play again. Whatever makes them happy... as long as I get her first!

Laura and I walked into the tiniest hotel room we'd ever seen. Very New York, lol. But it was nice.

We wasted no time, and started kissing while standing up. My hands felt underneath her tiny dress, and she pulled at my garter belt. We fell onto the bed, made out and groped for a few more minutes. She likes my long fingers, which got her off right shortly after I slide them inside her.

Once Laura gained control, she flipped me over on my back, took my panties off, spread my legs, and ordered, "Don't move." She went to open the windows so that all of New York could see what we were up to. Awesome. :)

With my legs still spread, she slowly unhooked my garters and rolled my stockings off. She played with my feet, stuck each toe in her mouth, then sucking on my big toes as if she was giving a cock a blow job. She had me unbelievably excited.

Laura then came up toward my pussy, using her tongue and fingers to get me off three times, licking her fingers clean each time before probing me again. Phenomenal.

While I caught my breath, she moved up next to me, played with my hair and hugged me. Somehow we had a conversation while we cuddled, but soon started our playtime again.

Laura is an amazing, amazing woman! I'm so happy to have her as part of my ForTra fitness program. :)